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I’ve heard the phrase “living your best life” a lot, and I never really gave it much notice. I have to admit, that the people who used that particular phrase tended to be the yoga, green tea type–the ones who drink kale smoothies and run at 6 am.

Not me, in other words.



But lately, I’ve been thinking about what MY “best life” looks like. I’m turning 40 this fall, and I’d heard that when you hit your forties, you just no longer give a crap about other people’s opinions. And I feel that coming on! Women In Their Forties used to seem like a club far in the future, women I had nothing in common with, and suddenly it’s upon me. I’m kind of excited! I feel like I get to play with the big girls now. 🙂

But what do I WANT? What kind of life do I want to live? I have a few personal rules that I’m holding onto that I think help me be the happiest I can be. They might change as I go, but so far, this is what I’ve got:

  1. I’m wearing clothes that fit me well, and I’m not dieting to fit into ANYTHING.
    I think that’s self explanatory. I mean, this is the body I’ve got. I can either enjoy it, appreciate it, and dress it well, or I can be critical of it. I prefer the former.
  2. I’m guiltlessly saying No to the stuff I don’t want to do. That list includes, but is not limited to: volunteer positions I don’t have time for, going out after 8 pm, babysitting, group work, and donating at the cash register.
  3. I‘m taking the time to smell the roses… and the first drafts! I’m lucky enough to be writing for a living, and that doesn’t come easily. I don’t take it for granted. But in all the hustle of making that living, it’s easy to forget to enjoy the process. So I’m reminding myself to have fun with this. I mean, if you can’t have fun when making up stories, then when?

So my personal “best life” might not include kale or yoga, but it does include writing a whole lot of books, holding my family close, and enjoying the ride.


Don’t roll your eyes. Yes, I hear it. You could paint all of this onto reclaimed wood and decorate your lake house with it. But it’s also sincere.

So what about you? What does YOUR best life look like?